Random Insanity Alliance Forum, Mark V
Cactuar Zone => Random lnsanity => Topic started by: KingRanter on November 08, 2008, 06:45:39 pm
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been trying to for nearly a month. im a chicken shit i know. even worse is that i did it through facebook. Does making a first conversation over the internet with whom you could easily talk to in real life make you a nerd? cause if it does, then I now have MORE proof that I'm a nerd.
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lmao dude just imagine that she's more nervous than you... ...
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You're not a nerd if you can admit it
Also what ever you do, don't take advice from that douche bag Mystery "The Pickup Artist". There's nothing wrong with talking to her through face book. If she says something nice back to you then you'll have a good way in to strike up a conversation with her in RL. If she doesn't respond back then you saved yourself some painful embarrassment.
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lmao dude just imagine that she's more nervous than you... ...
maybe cause she's scared shitless?
and mango, idunno what "the pickup artist" is, i'm just thinking by instinct. and she responded. she was pretty friendly. but i said most of my friends sucked and she said that it was "not kind" to say that. but other than that, she knows who i am because she's seen me around apparently. and when i got that response a shitload of stress lifted off my shoulders, cause minutes after i sent the message the surge of apathy that motivated me to do it went away, and then i was freakin out >_>
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lmao dude just imagine that she's more nervous than you... ...
maybe cause she's scared shitless?
and mango, idunno what "the pickup artist" is, i'm just thinking by instinct. and she responded. she was pretty friendly. but i said most of my friends sucked and she said that it was "not kind" to say that. but other than that, she knows who i am because she's seen me around apparently. and when i got that response a shitload of stress lifted off my shoulders, cause minutes after i sent the message the surge of apathy that motivated me to do it went away, and then i was freakin out >_>
that happened to me when i sent something i think i shouldn't have sent out....it sucks when you do it at 3am then you cant get any sleep because of it....
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that DOES suck >_>
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(http://www.ourchart.com/files/pickup.jpg)
Here's a picture of the pick up artist. He's has his own show on Vh1 that helps awkward men pick up girls using cheap pick up lines and tactics.
Anyway, congrats on your positive response. I bet you kept clicking for a response every 3 minutes right? At least now you can go to sleep without having to be all nervous wondering what she was going to say. Again, good job mustering up the courage. You know what they say, "You'll always miss 100% of the shots you never take".
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Haha, what prompted you to say that most of your friends sucked?
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(http://www.ourchart.com/files/pickup.jpg)
Here's a picture of the pick up artist. He's has his own show on Vh1 that helps awkward men pick up girls using cheap pick up lines and tactics.
Anyway, congrats on your positive response. I bet you kept clicking for a response every 3 minutes right? At least now you can go to sleep without having to be all nervous wondering what she was going to say. Again, good job mustering up the courage. You know what they say, "You'll always miss 100% of the shots you never take".
what a fag. who needs pickup lines and tactics when you have balls? that's what it really comes down to. balls, personality, brains, character. being a fun person. basically pretending she is just a friend and playing around with her. i guess, the way people normally get along. you're probably not doing that because you're maybe worried about rejection? just imagine her not being interested in you and you moving on and liking someone else, or being happy by yourself. make peace with the worst case scenario. if you can focus on already getting over her, getting over the possibility that she doesn't get what a great guy you are (trust me it happens to me too lol), you'll relax and be cool and it will happen naturally if it ever was going to happen anyway.
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(http://www.ourchart.com/files/pickup.jpg)
Here's a picture of the pick up artist. He's has his own show on Vh1 that helps awkward men pick up girls using cheap pick up lines and tactics.
Anyway, congrats on your positive response. I bet you kept clicking for a response every 3 minutes right? At least now you can go to sleep without having to be all nervous wondering what she was going to say. Again, good job mustering up the courage. You know what they say, "You'll always miss 100% of the shots you never take".
what a fag. who needs pickup lines and tactics when you have balls? that's what it really comes down to. balls, personality, brains, character. being a fun person. basically pretending she is just a friend and playing around with her. i guess, the way people normally get along. you're probably not doing that because you're maybe worried about rejection? just imagine her not being interested in you and you moving on and liking someone else, or being happy by yourself. make peace with the worst case scenario. if you can focus on already getting over her, getting over the possibility that she doesn't get what a great guy you are (trust me it happens to me too lol), you'll relax and be cool and it will happen naturally if it ever was going to happen anyway.
listen to llamavore when it comes to this stuff, he's good with advice and can think of solutions pretty fast.
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Haha, what prompted you to say that most of your friends sucked?
Honesty
fuckin' seriously, i dont have many friends and a shitload of them are bastards to me >_> but thats off topic
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Anyway, congrats on your positive response. I bet you kept clicking for a response every 3 minutes right? At least now you can go to sleep without having to be all nervous wondering what she was going to say. Again, good job mustering up the courage. You know what they say, "You'll always miss 100% of the shots you never take".
actually i wasnt clicking every 3 minutes cause i get an email from facebook whenever i get a message and msn tells me when i get emails, so i played videogames till i got it. and there was no courage, i just decided "i dont give a shit anymore im gonna talk to her" cause i was having a slightly difficult time waiting for myself so i just went ahead and did something about it.
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The same thing happened to me except I haven't talked to the girl and I can't email her because she has sbc global and that blocks all non=approved emails.
So if I don't find enough courage to talk to her in real life I'm at a standstill unless she comes to me (unlikely)
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oh noooooo
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ITT: fail
sure, talking online is a first step, but don't be satisfied with that until you talk to her IRL. trust me. DO NOT DEVELOP AN ONLINE RELATIONSHIP. try to move on to face to fac, or phone.
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i havent been able to talk to her yet cause i cant see her till school, which is tomorrow
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congrats mate!
i did the same thing this weekend, but i went all the way to IRL from the starte
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congrats mate!
i did the same thing this weekend, but i went all the way to IRL from the starte
yay!!
but i suck at that
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I'd say that assuming worst case scenario is a good start, but I don't think you want to keep assuming that. It helps to keep you from getting crushed in the beginning, but if things get better but you don't learn to start thinking a bit more positively than worst case scenarios, you'll miss a lot of the better or best case scenarios.
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It's a lot easier if you've got something in common to start off a conversation. Even if it's just having the same class or whatever
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I'd say that assuming worst case scenario is a good start, but I don't think you want to keep assuming that. It helps to keep you from getting crushed in the beginning
This man speaks truth, because i dont think ive ever felt as shitty as i do right now.
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It's a lot easier if you've got something in common to start off a conversation. Even if it's just having the same class or whatever
actually thats all we do have in common as far as i know, and i used that already >_>
also, i cannot believe this topic attracted so much attention and so little putdowns based on patheticness
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girls love game.
dont be too easy for her.. make her come to u.
dont give in brotha!
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make the girl who doesnt know me at all on a personal level, come to me
makes sense
fuck u >_>
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Hey guys. Just read the whole thing now... I am fairly successful with girls... I wont brag because people who brag genrally dont have a pair of testies to their name... But frankly as far as talking to girls goes this is what I have to say:
1. Do not get caught up on one girl, that is how you get crushed. Only when you are dating her get caught up on her (I dont always follow this rule... E.G. I was in Belgium and really got close to this girl, practicly dating but not really because I was burritos the country in like a week after we met, still got pretty close to loving her, I dont regret it, just means I need to get back to Belgium! haha).
This leaves number 2 much easier:
2. Act confidently! You can do almost anything you please if you are confident and dont let things phaze you! Make sure you joke around aswell!
3. Strike up a conversation (Good on you bro for starting one up online, better face to face but online is a good start and I know how difficult it is sometimes because when I was about 16 [I am 19 now] I was in the same situation of fearing rejection.) and just talk, work out what you think of this girl and what you would like from the conversation. This will allow you to decide whether you want to date this girl or if you would rather give her the miss! E.G. I was in Canada (Where I live part time... haha. I travel a bit and will be back home in NZ soon) and caught this girls eye when walking along the street, so I went to ask her for directions (I knew where I was but good for starting up conversations), I knew this girl wasnt too bright but next time we were in town we went to the beach and as things go made out ect. but this girl just kept talking about "We should buy that home and have kids... Ect." So I just thought fuck this and never called her again! haha! So it doesnt always work out!
4. Yes it breaks your balls if a girl is not interested! But that is part of the game man! Just forget it and move on. Dont let it go to your head! Find another girl and strike up a conversation!
5. When you do have the conversation going, let THEM talk!!!! Ask THEM questions! People like talking and if you let her do that she will like you for it! Plus it makes you slightly more mysterious! Which is also a good thing!!! Plus it gives you something to say during pillow talk, which when you do it like that it makes the girl feel like you are opening up and they feel much closer to you.
6. Forgot this one before aswell!!! Pick a few things and keep mentioning them (Not every couple of minutes guys!!!) One thing you like... Such as. I like your eyes... I cant stop looking at your eyes! haha! They are so nice! (ONLY PICK THINGS THAT YOU ACTUALLY LIKE!!!!) If they have an accent use something with that aswell! Such as when I am with french speaking woman I use their not being able to pronounce H as a cute thing and imitate their accent with not using H sometimes. WORKS VERY WELL! Comment on their cute accent ect. It can be anything that you feel they like about themselves because that is what they want you to notice. 3 things is usually best! One think they like e.g. Eyes. Two, something they dont have commented on much, like hair, hands or nose. One thing you can use as a joke as well as a complement. E.G. Accent, high pitched voice, tan, eye lashes, ears. Something unusal but NOT SOMETHING TOO UNUSUAL!!! DONT COMMENT ON HOW YOU LIKE THEIR HUMBED BACK!!! haha
7. Be flirtatious!!!! If she is not interested she will shut you down. Game over. Move on. But if she is interested she may or may not start flirting back!!! You may be thinking! "But that means she knows I like her, burritos me exposed to her brutality!!!" No it doesnt... Flirting is fun, just have fun! It takes some practice to be good at it. But if you are having a good day and are flirting well and she doesnt shut you down then it gives you much more lee-way. If it gets to the stage where there is alot of eye contact, you both seem comfortable, (For a like 2 hours not for 5 minutes guys!!! Take your time) hold he hand first, DO NOT GRAB IT, just stratigicly touch fingers then move over it. If that works out then take a risk and go for a kiss. Start with just a 10-20 second sort of thing. Also if she doesnt move forward with it just a little peck is all you do!!! Also no tounge unless she does. Then follow your instincts from there!!!
The last and one very useful one. Not the most important though.
8. Where to pick up a girl. I like Busses, trains, computer rooms, bus stops, train stations, on the street, while jogging, at clubs. ECT. I very rarely use bars unless I am there for a bit of fun and not a relationship. This is why, at all the before mentioned places, people are often bored and at ease as it is something they do often and is routine to them. So making it not a routine thing to them can often make them more interested in you and very approchable!!! Doesnt always work out but about 75%-80% of the time I get an email address or a phone number from it. Why I dont use bars! A. They have friends there. B. They are always shooting down guys there so unless you stand out you have no hope. C. Every tom, dick and harry goes to bars to pick people up, so if they get picked up often at bars genrally they are easy girls... i dont like easy girls... I like a bit of a challenge as it genrally means they are nicer people!!! D. Alcohol and the girls pretty themselves up for that... What can seem like a good decision might not be too hot in the morning... haha
So that is just my general stratigy! If you have any questions or insults then please share them with me!!! haha. How do you guys normally go about it? I would just like to say the BIGGEST piece that if you remember anything it is this: Confidence!!! If you get shot down 10 times but you are confident about it then NO harm will come to you except for people saying, geese that guy is a flirt/ womaniser! haha! In a school situation that is the best way to be. DO NOT BE RUDE!!! BE A GENTALMAN BUT CONFIDENT!!! No one will think there is anything wrong with what you are doing if you dont appear to think there is anything wrong with what you are doing!!!
Shit I wrote alot... Hope you guys can be bothered reading it over as I cant be! haha! I hope this helps you guys but if it doesnt please scream insults at me, then go to hell as it works for me! haha
Cheers
P.S. I did end up reading it and forgot something... ever time you flirt with a girl dont expect anything from it! Use alot of girls as practice! Even use your friends or make new friends that are girls that you have no intention on dating and flirt the hell out of them but in a comical way just for practice. If you dont think anything of it then nothing bad will come of it! Another example: Two of my mates in NZ I flirt with tons. One I am very mean to calling her a bitch very frequently but it is funny and she gives it back so we pretend to hate each other but we are good mates. The other one's parents think we will get married one day, I flirt with her but know her boy friend very well and it is innocent as I would not date her unless she was single and even then she is my best female friend so I would have some concerns about dating her but still we flirt and are INCREDABLY touchy feely towards eachother. So much so my that I never spent much time with her when my ex was around because I am sure my ex would have thought I was getting alittle on the side! haha.
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omg
NEVER approach her through facebook. that's just weird man.
anyways, it's a lot easier to flirt well in person.
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A whole shitload of crap I couldn't bring myself to read
my apologies but OHHH MMMYYYYY SSHIIIIITTT!!!!!!
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A whole shitload of crap I couldn't bring myself to read
my apologies but OHHH MMMYYYYY SSHIIIIITTT!!!!!!
you're stupid if you did not read that. the man gave you good advise.
i also agree with most things localhazard said. and i also emphasize NOT to get CAUGHT UP. you will only get hurt. work at a slow pace, if things seem cereal, then start opening up slowly.
listen kid, 99% of the time high school relationships do not last. keep that in mind. and like localhazard said, BE CONFIDENT.
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A whole shitload of crap I couldn't bring myself to read
my apologies but OHHH MMMYYYYY SSHIIIIITTT!!!!!!
you're stupid if you did not read that. the man gave you good advise.
i also agree with most things localhazard said. and i also emphasize NOT to get CAUGHT UP. you will only get hurt. work at a slow pace, if things seem cereal, then start opening up slowly.
listen kid, 99% of the time high school relationships do not last. keep that in mind. and like localhazard said, BE CONFIDENT.
I read some of it, bits by bits for general summary and whatnot, i'll read the whole thing later. also, i know high school relationships don't last, but they happen enough anyway so i try to make the best of it. that is of course, when they actually happen
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all of a suddenly this is feeling really unimportant. I'm probably gonna give up cause i dont care enough, lately i havent been feeling the need for a relationship. oddly enough.
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all of a suddenly this is feeling really unimportant. I'm probably gonna give up cause i dont care enough, lately i havent been feeling the need for a relationship. oddly enough.
Dude you took the first step! Dont stop walking!!! haha! Go for it man. You might not feel like it now but see where it leads, if you dont feel like one when you actually start dating then dump her. It is that simple. Your choice though mate so do what you feel is right.
you're stupid if you did not read that. the man gave you good advise.
i also agree with most things localhazard said. and i also emphasize NOT to get CAUGHT UP. you will only get hurt. work at a slow pace, if things seem cereal, then start opening up slowly.
Thanks man! Good to see that I am appriciated!!! haha
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all of a suddenly this is feeling really unimportant. I'm probably gonna give up cause i dont care enough, lately i havent been feeling the need for a relationship. oddly enough.
Dude you took the first step! Dont stop walking!!! haha! Go for it man. You might not feel like it now but see where it leads, if you dont feel like one when you actually start dating then dump her. It is that simple. Your choice though mate so do what you feel is right.
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but also, its mostly because i didnt take the first step, i can honestly see this going no where. but thats just me. this probably has something to do with having the idea in my head of going through the steps of going into the relationship, or because lately I've been happy with my friends and that kinda cheesy jackshit. I think I'm just gonna go out with a bang. I'll also decide what that means later.
also, quick note, probably should have said this before, she's not THAT important to me, i wont freak out on myself if i dont get her, every so often i ask myself why I'm even bothering with it, not because its not working but because I'm not seeing much of a point. nevertheless though, I'll go ahead and continue
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Fair enough that she isnt that important. One of my sisters friends was just murdered by this guy who was obsessed with her... So try not to get like that!
Well I wish you luck mate! If it goes well good job! If it doesnt then lie to us and tell us you got magnificent poon! haha!
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omg
NEVER approach her through facebook. that's just weird man.
anyways, it's a lot easier to flirt well in person.
No it isn't. It's not really harder in person either, but it's not easier. It is a little different, though. People are much less likely to take anything you say online seriously than they are in person. That means random non-serious flirting is incredibly easy online, but flirting with someone you like is probably better to do in person. Of course, practicing online doesn't help nearly as much as practicing in person, so... online flirting is a bit of a wasted skill if you expect anything more than entertainment from it.
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I have no skill in the matter. i have no skill in person either. nevertheless, the situation is going to come to a conclusion very soon, as i already got shut down. she wasn't that important anyway.
i'd like to take this time to say, i went out with a bang, and that IM TOTALLY FINE, SO DON'T TRY TO COMFORT ME k? awesome
but its not over yet, cause im still talking to her. on the internet. leave me alone >_>
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final advice:
take a look
it's in a book
the reading rainbow.
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it's in a book
you gotta do the cooking by the book
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Good that you went out with a bang dude!!! haha
Cook by the book... No you dont! Just throw things togeather and see what you make! By the book you get consitency! If you cook just with what you have and see what you make, either you get something incredable because you made it! Or you get something that doesnt desearve a spot on the heel of my boot (Just like my last girlfriend... haha). But at least you realise that those ingredients dont go togeather!
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much funnier things are now happening
a friend of a friend of mine was invited to my said friend's halloween party this year, along with me and a bunch of other people. but the me and the friend of a friend of mine (who's a girl) made sort of a connection (on my part anyway) but since she wasnt single i got over her fast. however i got her msn, and we kept in touch. it turns out now that she's gonna be breaking up with her bf tomorrow or something like that, and it turns out she's starting to like me back
important side note: i had told her i liked her at the party but had gotten over her quickly sometime in between
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RAPE HER
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RAPE HER
I'm in the school library and this made me snort a little
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RAPE HER
this is why the RIA girls always lurk
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RAPE HER
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itll be horrible for her cause she's never even kissed a guy before >_>
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lol.
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its weird cause i bitch about being the only virgin among my friends. but SHE's more of a n00b than I am. but she chooses to be. and she's the same age as I am before anyone starts asking how young she is >_>
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See, the thing is, you have a penis. She has a vagina. She KNOWS that all the penis' want Vagina. She also knows that she can probably get whatever she wants when she finally decides to give it up.
Thats why they invented roofies.
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A lesson i've learned through YEARS of experience is that womin do not willingly have sex. however, this can be altered with the use of the following factors:
-alcohol
-Coke andine
-money
-roofies
-chloroform
-babies
-other drugs
-gun to their head
with the use of these factors women may willingly* have sex.
*unconscious unrealistic will
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yes jokes about daterape are so funny -.-